I was posting an entry under The Side Blogs about Malta and the Philippines being the only remaining countries without divorce when it hit me that almost every argument against divorce in the Philippines is based on religious belief. Conservative Filipinos will argue about the effects of divorce on children and all that stuff… but, underneath it all, is the fundamental belief that only death can validly end a marriage because that is what the Catholic Church says, what God hath put together, let no man put asunder…
Modern psychologists say that children do not derive any benefit–physical, mental or emotional–from an unhappy home. Worse, when the relationship between the parents have become so estranged that shouting matches and physical abuse are already “normal” occurrences in their daily lives, the children become traumatized. The effects may last their entire lives.
From the point of view of the individual spouse, a failed marriage may breed adultery–another complication in an already complicated situation. The mental and emotional health of each spouse is compromised raising issues about their diminished capacity to fully contribute to the well-being of the family and society.
In other words, from every pragmatic and realistic consideration, divorce is a viable option. It opens fresh perspectives in the approach to how one can live the rest of his life under circumstances that are more conducive towards making him or her a more productive human being free from the emotional baggage that a failed marriage brings.
So, why not divorce?
There, we are stumped. There is that nagging thought that divorce is bad. Question is bad for whom?
Try assessing the pros and cons of divorce without touching on the religious aspect and see where it leads you.