It was Juan and Juana’s wedding. The church assistant was having problems with the groom’s parents as to what should be the place of each in the wedding processional. Normally, it’s a de-kahon solution. If it’s a traditional wedding, the parents wait at the alter with the groom. If it’s a modern wedding, the groom marches during the processional with his parents on either side.
But Juan’s situation is a little different.
Pedro and Maria are Juan’s parents. When Juan was still very young, Maria left Pedro for another man. Pedro eventually left for abroad and married Tekla. Juan was raised in the Philippines by an aunt and uncle.
On his wedding day, Tekla insisted that she had to have a part in the wedding processional just like Juan’s biological parents.
What happened in the wedding processional was this: the best man marched first followed by Tekla, then the groom and his parents. Weird, really, but the seating arrangement was even more strange.
Traditionally, the groom’s parents have specially allotted seats to the groom’s right just as the bride’s parents have theirs to the bride’s left.
But since Tekla wanted to take on the role of parent, she was the one who sat beside Pedro. Maria had to take a seat with the bride’s parents.
It’s a true story, although all names have been changed. When I relayed it to Speedy, he asked, “So, what did the groom’s father have to say about the demands of his second wife?”
I said, “I don’t know… but come to think about it, if he had been that much of a wimp when he was younger, it shouldn’t be so surprising that Maria walked out on him.”
Of course, it all boils down to delicadeza.
On a somewhat related note, at least Camilla had the delicadeza to stay away from the memorial service for Diana.