The line is from an article published in Fortwayne.com in reference to a new parenting model based on a philosophy followed by a group of fathers, in particular, Brian Reid of rebeldad.com who is also a contributor to Washington Post’s On Balance.
“Some fathers are still going to work 80 hours a week,” he said. “But with modern technology and more flexible workplaces, a lot more guys have the possibility of being at play group on Tuesday morning. Working fathers, stay-at-home fathers or some sort of combination – what unifies us all is wanting to play an active role in our children’s lives.”
It is about fathers who “alter their careers to fit their family life, rather than the other way around.”
I am not a father but I know exactly what that means. It was a choice I made twice in my life after I became a mother.
I wish ALL fathers had the opportunity to make that choice. I wish there were no cultural and social pressures that make a lot of fathers think that fathers who enjoy spending more time with the kids than slaving away at work are queer. The way Filipino culture is, I think we’re a long way away from such a scenario. Even if the choice were there, in a society where men still live with the stereotype that fathers make a living while the mother raises the kids, I doubt that many men will jump at the opportunity.