Comments on: Which is more difficult: marriage or parenthood? http://casaveneracion.com/which-is-more-difficult-marriage-or-parenthood/ Family, food, photography Tue, 14 Feb 2012 13:55:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: michelle http://casaveneracion.com/which-is-more-difficult-marriage-or-parenthood/comment-page-1/#comment-39925 michelle Sun, 02 Aug 2009 10:44:18 +0000 http://houseonahill.net/?p=7018#comment-39925 marriage is more difficult.... it is. it is. it is... HELP! hehehe marriage is more difficult…. it is. it is. it is… HELP! hehehe

]]> By: Connie Veneracion http://casaveneracion.com/which-is-more-difficult-marriage-or-parenthood/comment-page-1/#comment-34055 Connie Veneracion Thu, 19 Feb 2009 08:43:53 +0000 http://houseonahill.net/?p=7018#comment-34055 Nikita, re "ultimately, the parent will always be the one at fault if something happens..." I used to think that. But then, a parent can only do so much and you take that against the individuality of the child, there comes a point when what happens to the child is also largely dependent upon his own decisions and actions. Parang, we parents (mothers, especially) put so much pressure upon ourselves to raise perfect children and we blame ourselves when we go awry. I don't know anymore if that's a fair or realistic position to take. I mean, I still blame myself sometimes when my kids play truant (especially in school) but they have their own minds already, so... Nikita, re “ultimately, the parent will always be the one at fault if something happens…”

I used to think that. But then, a parent can only do so much and you take that against the individuality of the child, there comes a point when what happens to the child is also largely dependent upon his own decisions and actions. Parang, we parents (mothers, especially) put so much pressure upon ourselves to raise perfect children and we blame ourselves when we go awry. I don’t know anymore if that’s a fair or realistic position to take. I mean, I still blame myself sometimes when my kids play truant (especially in school) but they have their own minds already, so…

]]> By: Nikita http://casaveneracion.com/which-is-more-difficult-marriage-or-parenthood/comment-page-1/#comment-34051 Nikita Thu, 19 Feb 2009 06:55:46 +0000 http://houseonahill.net/?p=7018#comment-34051 The point about changing boundaries day to day, situation to situation - that's why I think parenthood is more difficult. Really such a bigger room for error. The fact that in marriage, you're working with an adult (or so you hope), the fact that it's not the case in the early stages of parenthood is what makes it more complicated. And ultimately, the parent will always be the one at fault if something happens. The point about changing boundaries day to day, situation to situation – that’s why I think parenthood is more difficult. Really such a bigger room for error. The fact that in marriage, you’re working with an adult (or so you hope), the fact that it’s not the case in the early stages of parenthood is what makes it more complicated. And ultimately, the parent will always be the one at fault if something happens.

]]> By: Connie Veneracion http://casaveneracion.com/which-is-more-difficult-marriage-or-parenthood/comment-page-1/#comment-34033 Connie Veneracion Wed, 18 Feb 2009 09:56:52 +0000 http://houseonahill.net/?p=7018#comment-34033 What I fear about parenthood is learning how to balance discipline with magnanimity. You know, set the boundaries but leave enough room for the child to grow and develop as an individual. Those boundaries change from situation to situation and from day to day and you just feel that, every time, you're just such a greenhorn hayyyy... What I fear about parenthood is learning how to balance discipline with magnanimity. You know, set the boundaries but leave enough room for the child to grow and develop as an individual. Those boundaries change from situation to situation and from day to day and you just feel that, every time, you’re just such a greenhorn hayyyy…

]]> By: peasmom http://casaveneracion.com/which-is-more-difficult-marriage-or-parenthood/comment-page-1/#comment-34030 peasmom Wed, 18 Feb 2009 06:16:26 +0000 http://houseonahill.net/?p=7018#comment-34030 The two arguments really have both their shares of discussion. It's actually a good topic for a debate. I am one who is blessed with a good husband and children. What I don't like in my marriage is my relationship with MIL. And what I fear in parenthood is whether I instill enough values and principles to my children so that they will be able to make right decisions when they grow up. The two arguments really have both their shares of discussion. It’s actually a good topic for a debate. I am one who is blessed with a good husband and children. What I don’t like in my marriage is my relationship with MIL. And what I fear in parenthood is whether I instill enough values and principles to my children so that they will be able to make right decisions when they grow up.

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